tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13994370.post2683031344998177020..comments2024-03-27T10:50:04.431-04:00Comments on living read girl: Louie and the Fat Lady Conversationlady thttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16287907577241697874noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13994370.post-19310456705183647372014-05-20T10:23:30.367-04:002014-05-20T10:23:30.367-04:00Argh! You always end with a jade's trick. I kn...Argh! You always end with a jade's trick. I know you of old.Thaddeushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17414047155226211676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13994370.post-19130519325863863582014-05-16T15:11:39.470-04:002014-05-16T15:11:39.470-04:00 Yes, one of the reasons I dig the BBC and Brit fi... Yes, one of the reasons I dig the BBC and Brit films like Notting Hill:Dlady thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16287907577241697874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13994370.post-20161434942555138712014-05-16T15:05:11.331-04:002014-05-16T15:05:11.331-04:00I dig that. BBC is better about not casting models...I dig that. BBC is better about not casting models in every role or lead. Nick Frost, Robbie Coltrane... Hell, the series Miranda has a lead who is clearly plus sized despite being over six feet tall...Thaddeushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17414047155226211676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13994370.post-63800786200028509632014-05-16T12:15:49.789-04:002014-05-16T12:15:49.789-04:00I appreciate your thoughts on this,Thaddeus and I ...I appreciate your thoughts on this,Thaddeus and I do agree that heavy set men don't get a completely free pass on this subject either.<br /><br /> The sad fact that Chris Farley felt compelled to walk down the same dark road as his idol John Belushi did speaks volumes about the lack of large leading man positive images. Yes, they have a better chance of getting the "hot girl" on screen but not at the expense of some needless body shaming humor.<br /><br />Don't get me wrong, I can "take a joke as much as the next fat person"*Matilda reference* but there comes a point where it gets to be too much.<br /><br />As for me personally, please forgive my dramatics(I'm American of Irish descent and we're prone to do that) on this matter. I don't out and out blame ADC or the pop culture world entirely for my reluctance in that arena but it is a strong influential factor not just for me and I felt I had to acknowledge that.<br /><br />And for the record, it's really not so much getting attention from superficial jerks(which women of all shapes have to deal with), it's being accepted as a complete person and not just my size. As that speech on Louie pointed out, that possibility of being the person who very well could have a husband or boyfriend and not automatically assumed to be unlovable. <br /><br />I do know that there are decent guys and gals out there,not to mention folks who have gone through worse rejections that myself but thank you for your encouragement and considerate concern.<br /><br />Oh, and one last thing; sometimes, pop culture gets things right. One of the reasons that I enjoyed season one of Under the Dome was Dodie, a character that doesn't last very long in the book(spoiler,sorry) but on the show, she was given more of a vital supporting role.<br /><br />Dodie was smart and tech savvy,plus brave enough to stand up to the real Big Bad in their midst(although far too trusting which lead to her death) and oh, by the way, she's fat.<br /><br /> Her size is never made an issue and granted, there are more important things for the gang in Chester's Mill to worry about but seeing her here was a real breath of fresh air. She may be gone(not for long, if those hints about a ghostly appearance from her that I saw in a teaser are right) but not forgotten. I just wish we could have more characters like that in non genre fare.lady thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16287907577241697874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13994370.post-13366955627791759122014-05-15T21:42:48.435-04:002014-05-15T21:42:48.435-04:00Well, for one thing, I want to start by saying tha...Well, for one thing, I want to start by saying that it may be less of a "fat women" thing and more of a "fat people" thing. While it's true that there are many social stereotypes against fat women, I honestly believe that it boils down to awful attitudes about "good-looking women," with the presumption being that thin women = good-looking women.<br /><br />There are many tropes in society and pop culture about heavy-set folks. But Tom Cruise keeps getting paired with women in their 30's even as he's hitting his 50's. And the exercise craze of the 70s and 80s (and beyond) have really made people think that not-thin = unhealthy. It stinks.<br /><br />But looking back at John Candy and Chris Farley and other corpulent men, you see a real mean stereotype displayed. I would write it off because pop culture is often for the lowest common denominator, but it pervades in society, too.<br /><br />I hope you don't take too much "baggage" from this stuff onto yourself. There are plenty of men who don't want a toothpick-shaped woman. And I've heard BBC reports about women getting treated more nicely by men after getting breast augmentation.<br /><br />The point is: would you care what guys think if they're only nice to "hot" girls? Would you want that kind of attention? From jerks? There are plenty of non-judgmental men out there, and above all confidence and positivity is a sexy thing. I don't know what you've been through, but please don't forget that.Thaddeushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17414047155226211676noreply@blogger.com